Yesterday was my first day of not working in almost 25 years (aside from taking maybe 9 months off when my two kids were babies — they’re 22 months apart so they truthfully were both babies).  Anyway, it was a Monday and a holiday so my kids didn’t have school, however my son still had an 8a football practice (I’m rolling my eyes at this moment because why 8a when it’s a holiday and they have all day???).  I picked him up from practice and then we had to go run a couple of errands because he’s going to his first high school homecoming dance 🙂 and he needed a sports coat and dress shoes.  We were driving home and it was 12:30 and I said to him “see I think I’ll be fine with not working”  because look it’s already 12:30p and I have stuff I need to do at home and then I still need to go to yoga and to the grocery store so my day is totally full”, and he replied “that’s an awesome life mom I hope I have that kind of life when I’m your age, I would get so DEEPLY into yoga and I would get so GOOD at grocery shopping”.   It made me laugh so hard — he’s a total smart ass and he thinks yoga is really dumb but the awesome thing about it was he really meant it. 💜

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Published by shannbenn50

First a little bit about me ... I'm going to be 50 in about 5 minutes, I've been married for 20 years and have two incredibly great teenagers, (albeit incredibly moody). I am a Capricorn and I'd say 99% Capricorn. I do yoga everyday and my husband says "for someone who does ("practices" is the correct term FYI ; yoga everyday you're awfully high strung", my response is "can you imagine me if I didn't do yoga everyday"? and his response is "I'd be scared"! I've been told by a number of people that I need to lower my expectations of people because then I won't constantly be disappointed. My husband says he tries to have zero expectations and then sometimes he's pleasantly surprised. :) Which is really great advice and may work for him but I'm having a hard time with it, and I don't want to lower my expectations, I want people to rise to my expectations (someone said to me the other day "who died and made you God")? So I've been "practicing" this mantra "lower your expectations, be more forgiving and compassionate & understanding" it has maybe worked a tiny bit. And then I came across this quote while in the throes of being disappointed by others "There is no good way or bad way. And the sooner we let go of expectations about how things are supposed to go, the happier we get to be." Which I wrote down and put in my nightstand from a book I read called "The Divorce Party" by Laura Dave. So I texted my friend that quote, who also has high expectations of people and who is also constantly let down and I said "perhaps my mother is right, she told me I have really high expectations of myself and so I think everyone else should be the same and they're not, so the sooner I accept that the better". And my friend's response was? "Lies, all lies! Of course there is a good way and a bad way, the GOOD way is OUR way"! For better or for worse I have to say I agree! "What is wrong with people?" was going to be the title of my blog because I constantly find those words coming out of my mouth ... but this "blog" has morphed into something else because it turned out I actually have a lot of positive good things to say and share about people, I shocked myself, so therefore I changed the title and the direction of my "blog/website" ... my initial emoji I was going to use was 😩 But now the one I want to use is ❤️

One thought on ““Retirement”

  1. Very funny. I love your stories, your self awareness
    and the voice of reason that is your husband chiming in.


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