Less Said, Best Said …

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“I give zero fucks about anything yet I have strong opinions about everything, even topics I’m not informed on & know nothing about” Hannah from Girls … this kind of sums me up or at least my husband might say it does and that’s why he has to give me “the look” or a slight “kick” under the table which means “wrap it up” or ‘take it down a notch” “or “don’t ask THAT” (because you don’t know what the hell you’re talking about or if you do your opinions are too strong, or who would ask that!?!).  I actually really appreciate it (most of the time) because he saves me from myself or at least saves the other person from having to listen to me and what I think 😉 on a whole range of topics that aren’t necessarily acceptable to talk about :(.  But those are the things I WANT to talk about … politics, religion, the meaning of life, the bad shit in addition to the good shit going on in your life.   However, I recently had to leave a conversation/party before I was finished telling a “story” and the girl (women I guess because I’m that old 🙄) grabbed my arm as I was leaving and said “wait I want to hear the rest …” and my husband said “trust me you don’t ;)” and she said “oh … Less Said, Best Said”??? And my response was “YES!?” (maybe 😏) sometimes, maybe that’s the best road to take???  My “New Years Resolution” was to make a change or should I say my newest mantra (since I started this post last fall) is going to be “Less Said, Best Said” anyone who knows me knows it will be NOT be easy (probably impossible)!

“The less said the better.” ― Jane Austen

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Regarding making a CHANGE …

“People change” … “but more often people stay exactly the same” … The Nest by Cynthia D’Aprix Sweeney.  Isn’t that the truth?! More often than not you can’t change someone, but I think sometimes a person can change themselves at least a little bit or at least maybe get some credit for trying??? Honey I’m going to try!

“Aye, well, sometimes best not to say the first thing that pops into your mind out loud, eh?” he said quietly, not looking at me.” Elinor Oliphant by Gail Honeyman— believe it or not I really do try not to do that, but most of the time I just can’t help myself! 😮

Regarding text abbreviations … “I wasn’t made for illiteracy; it simply didn’t come naturally. Although it’s good to try new things and to keep an open mind, it’s also extremely important to stay true to who you really are. I read that in a magazine at the hairdressers.” Elinor Elephant by Gail Honeyman


“Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should” — I don’t know where I first heard this (I wish I said it first 😉) just looked it up and nope not me … DARN IT!



When women my age wear too short of skirts, or too short of shorts or tube tops or teeny, tiny bikinis — and even though they may look good in them because they’re in really good shape, it’s still not appropriate — “just because you can, doesn’t mean you should”  I won’t “change” my opinion on that one!

Anyway, as long as my husband gives me “the look” or the slight “kick” under the table ;), I’m going to try to be a little bit more …

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that being said …

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Published by shannbenn50

First a little bit about me ... I'm going to be 50 in about 5 minutes, I've been married for 20 years and have two incredibly great teenagers, (albeit incredibly moody). I am a Capricorn and I'd say 99% Capricorn. I do yoga everyday and my husband says "for someone who does ("practices" is the correct term FYI ; yoga everyday you're awfully high strung", my response is "can you imagine me if I didn't do yoga everyday"? and his response is "I'd be scared"! I've been told by a number of people that I need to lower my expectations of people because then I won't constantly be disappointed. My husband says he tries to have zero expectations and then sometimes he's pleasantly surprised. :) Which is really great advice and may work for him but I'm having a hard time with it, and I don't want to lower my expectations, I want people to rise to my expectations (someone said to me the other day "who died and made you God")? So I've been "practicing" this mantra "lower your expectations, be more forgiving and compassionate & understanding" it has maybe worked a tiny bit. And then I came across this quote while in the throes of being disappointed by others "There is no good way or bad way. And the sooner we let go of expectations about how things are supposed to go, the happier we get to be." Which I wrote down and put in my nightstand from a book I read called "The Divorce Party" by Laura Dave. So I texted my friend that quote, who also has high expectations of people and who is also constantly let down and I said "perhaps my mother is right, she told me I have really high expectations of myself and so I think everyone else should be the same and they're not, so the sooner I accept that the better". And my friend's response was? "Lies, all lies! Of course there is a good way and a bad way, the GOOD way is OUR way"! For better or for worse I have to say I agree! "What is wrong with people?" was going to be the title of my blog because I constantly find those words coming out of my mouth ... but this "blog" has morphed into something else because it turned out I actually have a lot of positive good things to say and share about people, I shocked myself, so therefore I changed the title and the direction of my "blog/website" ... my initial emoji I was going to use was 😩 But now the one I want to use is ❤️

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